Conflict is all around us. Turn on the news and we see it locally, nationally, and globally. As we examine our own relationships with our families, our friends, our neighbors, and even our brothers and sisters in Christ, we find occasional, and sometimes constant, conflict. Why so much conflict in the world?
Jesus warned us that life on this side of eternity would not be perfect. He said, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33
So how are we supposed to deal with conflict? Biblically, of course. But how many of us really know how to do that?
Ken Sande wrote an incredibly popular and practical book called The Peace Maker, a tool used around the world to help individuals, families, churches, ministry and business leaders resolve conflict. Ken “gives practical biblical guidance for conflict resolution that takes you beyond resolving conflicts to true, life-changing reconciliation with family, coworkers, and fellow believers.” When Christians learn how to be biblical peacemakers, they are able to turn conflict into opportunities to strengthen relationships, preserve valuable resources, and make their lives a testimony to the love and power of Christ. The book teaches a straightforward approach to resolving conflict, summarized in the four basic principles, referred to as the “Four G’s”:
- Glorify God (1 Cor. 10:31)
- Get the log out of your eye (Matt. 7:5)
- Gently restore (Gal. 6:1)
- Go and be reconciled (Matt. 5:24)
This book is for anyone interested in learning how to biblically resolve personal and/or professional conflict. Imagine the impact of our churches if they were full of trained Christian conciliators, able to wisely help others resolve their conflicts! We might actually restore relationships, save marriages, avoid court (1 Corinthians 6:1-8), and testify with our lives to the grace and mercy of God’s forgiving love.
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18
Grace and peace to you.